Dec 29 2011

Take This Job and Shove It? 5 Signs You May Have the Worst Boss in the World

If you are an employee who works in an environment where your higher-ups are supportive, creative, fair-minded and open to feedback, count yourself among the lucky ones. Unfortunately, not everyone is so blessed.

Many employees are struggling to cope in a negative work environment where they deal with the stress of  surviving emotionally and psychologically from day-to-day.

Are you suffering in an environment of workplace cruelty, abuse or neglect? If you can answer yes to the following questions, you may have the worst boss in the world:

1         DISRESPECTFUL? Does your boss call you demeaning names or imply through words or actions that you are unintelligent, untrustworthy or incompetent? Does this happen in the presence of other employees?

2         UNFAIR? Does your boss seem to have standards or rules that apply to you, but do not apply to others in positions similar or identical to yours?

3         CLOSED-MINDED? Are your attempts to communicate your ideas and concerns to your boss repeatedly ignored or discouraged?

4         NEGATIVE? Does your boss find every opportunity to criticize your performance, but makes no effort to praise your accomplishments?

5         INCONSISTENT? Does your boss change his or her mind about a decision, policy or procedure without clearly communicating the change, then punish or malign you when you’re unclear about how to proceed?

In this economy you can believe there is an unemployed person who is ready and willing to put up with your boss’s bad behavior, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have any recourse in a situation where you are being subjected to abusive, demeaning, harassing or unfair treatment in the workplace.

Although there are federal laws protecting you against workplace discrimination and certain types of harassment, labor laws vary from state to state regarding verbal or psychological abuse in the workplace. The most important thing you can do to protect yourself and prepare for possible legal action is to keep a journal in which you document all instances of maltreatment and record your attempts to communicate your concerns to your boss and through other appropriate feedback channels in the company. Be sure to note details specific to the incidents of abuse, including the names of witnesses who could corroborate your version of events.

It is important to keep in mind that your work environment should not be causing you to feel despondent, enraged, or suicidal. If you are experiencing extreme emotions that could lead to violent or self-destructive actions, seek mental health counseling immediately. If your employer does not provide insurance for mental health services, call your county health department to find out about free or reduced-cost services near you.

Dec 24 2010

An intimate Christmas gift from L. Boogie

When rap legend Rakim was asked by MTV News who he most wanted to see on stage at Rock The Bells in San Bernardino this summer, he had a quick answer.

“Lauryn Hill, man….I’m amped. Lauryn, welcome back. We need you.”

It was the first time in over a decade most of those in attendance had seen the hip-hop legend perform on stage, and they weren’t disappointed. Along with some new rhymes, she gifted the crowd with classics from The Score and Miseducation. During a reggae breakdown of “Fugee La” she was joined on stage by Mary J. Blige, Beyoncé and Alicia Keys, and her set ended with her telling her fans repeatedly, “I miss you. I miss you.”

Fans on the East Coast who miss her too will get an opportunity to experience Lauryn Hill up close and personal at  these intimate venues over the next few weeks.  Can you imagine being at the Blue Note for a Lauryn Hill concert? (Definitely on my Christmas wish list).

December 27 New York, NY HighLine Ballroom
December 28 Brooklyn, NY Music Hall of Williamsburg
January 1 New York, NY Bowery Ballroom
January 3 – 5 New York, NY Blue Note
January 8 Charlotte, NC Amos’ SouthEnd
January 9 Asheville, NC The Orange Peel
January 12 Charleston, SC Music Farm
January 14 Atlanta, GA Center Stage
January 16 St. Louis, MO The Pageant
January 18 Minneapolis, MN First Avenue
January 20 Chicago, IL House of Blues
January 22 Toronto, ON Sound Academy
January 23 Montreal, QC Metropolis
January 29 Atlantic City, NJ House of Blues
February 4 Montclair, NJ Wellmont Theatre
March 19 Miami Gardens, FL Jazz in the Gardens

Dec 24 2010

Will you be alive next Christmas Eve?

None of us really knows the answer to that question because in this life a tragedy or a miracle can happen in an instant. For most the answer is yes, but for many, this Christmas will be the last spent here on earth with family and friends.

I don’t mean to be morbid in this season meant for jolliness, but I’m hoping the question serves as a reminder of the amazing gift you have already received this year if you are alive and healthy. If you are fortunate enough to have been up and about combing the city for meaningful gifts for your loved ones, why not take a moment to consider offering a gift that will cost you zero dollars and is worth more than any gift you will ever spend your money on.

Below is a YouTube video recorded by a young man whose life was saved by Andrew, a marrow donor he didn’t know. His friends and family participated in this amazing “thank you” to Andrew. So creative and really touching. My favorites are at 2:10, 3:27, 3:35, 3:45, 4:16, 4:35, and 5:27.  Which ones touch you the most?

“It’s absolutely critical that people of every ethnic group and heritage join the registry because you are most likely to find a match within your own ancestry. Over six thousand people search the registry every single day looking for a marrow match.”

Visit to join the registry today.

3 good reasons to join the registry:

  • Do it as a thank you for the health you’ve been blessed with
  • Do it as a gesture of love for your fellow humans who are in need of something you have a plentiful supply of
  • Do it in the name of someone you love who would give anything to be healthy enough to save someone else’s life